Abstract
This thematic paper is of 3 objectives, i.e. (1) to study the problems and the causes of family conflicts; (2) to study the concepts of the Ten Ovāda or advice of Tanondchai, the millionaire, in Buddhist Scripture; and (3) to apply the principles of the Ten Ovāda or advice to build or enhance peaceful families.
The research is found that the conflicts in general families are the states of dissonance, not understanding one another, and having hatred and displeasure as the bases. The causes of conflicts are from both inside and outside factors; for instance, the inside are greediness, hatred, and delusion while the outside are the states of family relationship, economy, cultures and societies, etc. Such conflicts have reflected in the forms of abusive speaking, and hurting one another. The ways to solve conflicts according to academic principles are, i.e. having love and equality, and the withdrawing and disintegration of attachments while in Buddhim are, i.e. having the Five Precepts, the Four Brahmavihāra, and the Four Gharāvāsa-dhamma, etc.
In solving conflicts for enhancing peaceful families according to the Ten Ovāda or advice of Tanondchai, the millionaire, it has the following implications to the wife: do not bring the wrong doings of husband’s parents and the husband out for gossiping; when the outsiders blame all of them, do not bring it to talk with the household family members; giving should be done to the one who returned; giving should not be done to the one who did not return; when relatives request for help, it should be complied with; do not sit at the obstructed area; should go to bed later; should eat later; should take good care of the household family members; and should pay respect to husband’s parents and the husband.
From the analysis, it is found that the concepts of enhancing peaceful families according to the Ten Ovāda or advice are in the four aspects of practices: societies; economy and security; duties and responsibilities; and virtues and ethics, all of which are evident as the principles or the ways for practicing. Those are; for examples, the principles of precepts; the principles of Ditthadhammikattha, Samvattanikadham, Kulciratthitidham, Bhogavibhak and the ritual ceremony; the principles of the back and the front directions; the principles of the Four Brahmavihāra, the Four Gharāvāsa-Dhamma, and the Four Saṅgahavatthu, etc.
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